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Why Am I Not Excited About My Wedding? [And How To Approach It]

Your wedding is supposed to be the most exciting event of your life. Movies, TV shows, Romantic novels, and even music videos portray weddings as entirely joyful and exciting occasions. Therefore, if your feeling and emotions do not mirror this unbridled joy, you may be worried about why you are not excited. But why is this? Well, we are going to be exploring potentially why here today. Oh, and before we begin, let me reassure you. It’s more common than you think!

So, why am I not excited about my wedding? You may not be excited about your wedding due to stress, nerves or feeling overwhelmed. This could be due to the nature of the day itself (such as being in front of a large crowd of people and all of the attention being directed toward you). Alternatively, it may even indicate a hesitancy about who you are marrying.

However, take some time to think about what it is you’re not looking forward to before any big decisions are made.

Often talking about it about your significant other can help to ease the burden of worry, as they are the only one who is going to understand exactly how you are feeling. 

Besides, all the best marriages are built on honesty, so it’s essential that you communicate exactly how you are feeling.

If you are worried about how they will react to you disclosing your negative feelings, try phrasing in a way that explicitly details exactly what it is you are nervous about and provide reassurance that you are committed to them (if this is the case).

With this all in mind, let us explore each potential reason why you may not be excited ahead of your wedding day before turning to some potential solutions and ways to turn this around.

Reasons Why You May Not Be Excited About Your Wedding

There are so many reasons why you may not be as excited about your wedding day as you thought you would be. 

To be fair, I think most of us go through a period of dread, anxiety, and wishing it was over when it comes to our weddings. 

They are stressful to plan and expensive, which can lead to a lot of financial anxiety, and if your family is a little complicated, that can add to the stress.

Here are some common reasons why you may not be excited about your wedding.


The oldest reason in the book for not being excited about your wedding day is that you are nervous.

Maybe the idea of standing up in front of a crowd is terrifying, or you could be worried that things will go wrong. It is totally normal to feel nervous, it is a big day, after all, and these nerves can really take the shine off any excitement you thought you would feel.

Overwhelm – Not Enough Planning 

Planning a wedding is a massive undertaking. There are so many things to organize, many of which you might not have even thought about before you started planning.

If organization isn’t a skill you possess, this can make the run-up to your wedding incredibly stressful, and any excitement you did feel can disappear with the snap of a finger.

You Are Trying to Be Too Perfect

We all want our wedding day to be perfect and for it to go without a hitch, but I’ll let you in on a little secret – there is no such thing as perfection.

This battle for everything to be perfect sucks the joy out of the planning, the build-up, and even the day itself. 

You Are Putting To Much Pressure On Yourself

Much like the pressure of perfection, the pressure you put on yourself can also zap your wedding excitement.

Maybe you have weightless goals that aren’t going your way, or you are putting pressure on your budget.

Whatever it is, this kind of pressure is like a pressure cooker.

Eventually, you are going to snap, and it will be a real struggle to get excited about your wedding day.

Complicated Family Issues

Not everyone has a cookie-cutter family. Many of us are now the products of divorce for many different reasons, and the stress of bringing a family together that has uncomfortable history can overwhelm any excitement you have for your wedding.

You may be spending more time worrying about how to keep person A away from person B for the entire day, and this is why you can’t get excited about your upcoming nuptials.

You Don’t Actually Want To Get Married

This is actually the first reason we jump to for not being excited about a wedding, but it’s also the most unlikely reason.

However, some of us do jump into getting married because we feel like we have to do it, not because we actually want to.

If none of the above reasons seem true to you, it may be time to consider whether you actually want to get married and if this is the reason you are not excited. 

Is It Normal To Not Be Excited About Your Wedding?

It is completely normal not to get excited about your wedding. Planning a big event like a wedding day is stressful; there is so much to organize, so many people will be involved, and your excitement can get a little lost at times. Many people don’t even enjoy the wedding part of getting married; it’s the marriage they are looking forward to.

However, if you are not even a little thrilled at the idea of being married, now is the time to take a long hard look at what you want out of life and your relationship.

Do you want to get married?

If you do, but the wedding itself is stressing you out, maybe you and your partner should elope.

How To Get Excited About Your Wedding

It’s totally normal not to feel excited about your wedding all the time. There are so many things that can influence how you feel about the big day.

If you are not feeling the buzz and butterflies of excitement for your wedding day, here are a few things you can try to help get that excitement back.

Plan Everything Out

Make sure everything is planned.

The unknown can be chaotic in your mind and could be dampening your excitement.

Take an evening or two to go through everything that needs to be done and work out how to get it all organized.

If the task is overwhelming for you and your spouse to be, you can always ask some trusted friends or family members to chip in and help to relieve any planning stress you have.

Or failing that and depending on the venue, do consider a wedding planner or coordinator.

Sure they cost but if they help you to actually get excited about your big day, its going to be worth it.

Visualize The Day

Taking the time to visualize your day can help to restore your excitement for your big day.

Imagine what it will feel like to walk down the aisle with your significant other waiting at the other end for you.

Imagine the warmth of all your loved ones surrounding you. If you have any exciting entertainment planned, take the time to visualize what it will feel like to actually enjoy it.

Sometimes just imagining your big day can help to restore your excitement.

Try To Destress

Stress is the biggest zapper of wedding joy. You have got a million and one thing running through your mind all the time.

It may be a good idea to plan a weekend break or even a spa day for you and your partner to forget about planning and just enjoy each other’s company without any stress.

Change Your Wedding Plans

Go over everything you have planned so far.

Perhaps your vision of the day has gotten lost with everyone else’s input and the reason you aren’t as excited about your wedding day anymore is that it doesn’t feel like what you had originally envisioned.

Don’t feel as though you have to stick to a singular plan if it doesn’t make you feel excited. It’s your day, so if you want to make changes, you can.

Ask For Help

Asking for help can feel very difficult for some people but planning a wedding is a really difficult task.

There’s no shame in holding your hands up and saying you can’t do it all alone.

If you want to feel excited about your wedding day again and asking for help to plan your big day will help you do that, ask away. 

Have You Considered Eloping?

It may just be that a big wedding in front of 100-plus people just isn’t your thing, and this is what is stealing your wedding joy.

If the idea of a big wedding is more stressful than exciting, you may want to consider eloping.

The adventure of a grand holiday, just you and your partner that results in you committing your lives to one another may just be what you need. 

It’s Time To Get Excited About Your Wedding

Although your wedding should be the most exciting time of your life, it can also feel like the most stressful.

If you haven’t felt excited about your big day for a little while, don’t panic.

It doesn’t necessarily mean the worst – that you don’t want to get married. You may just be overwhelmed, tired, or anxious about your upcoming nuptials.

Take time out to destress, ask for help when you can, and take the time to decide what’s actually important to you when it comes to your big day to help reinvigorate your sense of excitement.